In the recent times we have had women in Africa standing up for what they think is right – being the way they expect women to be treated.
Feminism being defined as “the advocacy of women’s right on the grounds of political, social and economic equality” to me has largely been misunderstood by perception. In my opinion, feminism doesn’t totally rule out your role as an African woman – mother in the home rather it singles out strong willed women, show casing their hard work and the need for recognition bearing in mind that being a mother or not does not reduce you as a person neither does it affect your capacity to contribute to the political, social or economic cycle to make the world a better place.
Now it is imperative to understand that the average African man doesn’t see himself in a competition with the women rather he sees himself as to being superior to them and I must say this is the greater edge for the men folks.
I had a discussion with some group of ladies on their take on feminism and women’s right and from that short discussion, I understood that many young ladies out there sees feminism as a means of escaping the homely duties. I am not quite sure on who to put the blame on but don’t bear grudges if I decide to lay the blame of the feminist out there. It’s either someone is passing the wrong message down to her followers via words or action or someone somewhere is getting it all wrong.
I understand that you can speak and write but you can’t also assume the role of understanding it for each and every lady who comes across your articles or podcast but when the number of misconceptions becomes invariably high then I believe someone or a group of people are passing down the wrong message.
There is a big difference in being humane and being a feminist. Our feminist have done a good job in standing up to advocate for the women’s right but how many of them can really define this right they stand for?
Until the feminist sit to agree that a woman should never be in competition with any other gender to be a woman, until they understand that your hard work as a woman is imperative to attain proper advocacy for the women, until they understand that the unique power a woman has is super – the ability the multitask and inspire, until they understand that a true African man would respect a hardworking being, be you female or men, until they decide to spread the culture of hard work and consistency, self-respect and self-love, then they will keep passing down the wrong message to the young female generations who look up to them.