The thing about relationships and the way we see them have a lot to do with the way we relate in our day to day living as well. A friend once asked me if anyone reads my relationship posts and she was shocked when I told her relationship articles are the most read on my blog just after the xrated article. (Of course you know porn sells).
Humans are always in search of answers especially when it affects them directly. The number of people going through emotional headache can’t be quantified just because we all tend to cover it up and live under the pretense of ‘my relationship is the best’ thereby dying inside and soaking our pillows with tears – there goes something else I detest; pretense.
It would help us all if we could come to terms with the title of this article – ‘ No one rule fits all ’
As a lady you can’t expect to have the exact kind of relationship your friend has when you both are not dating same guy. You can’t treat your man the way your sister treats her own man just because it works for them. What works for you may not work for me. Likewise what works for you may not work for someone else.
Most of the articles you see online are all suggestive. Positive suggestive if I may add. They are just few pointers you should use in weighing the dos and donts in your love life. You don’t necessarily have to follow them word for word. That an article tells you your man would shout your name out loud with a mic or have your pics daily on his dp to show you are the only one in his life or the only serious woman in his life doesn’t mean the guy you are dating isn’t serious with you. He just might not want every other person all up in his business. He probably like a certain kind of lifestyle.
As a man, you dig up an article online and it tells you you should always have your own time with your friends. You don’t need your girlfriend hanging around you often, then because of that you cut off all dating plans you have with your bae. Suddenly the relationship turns boring, she complains and then you say she is seeking attention or overly nagging and expect her to know that things are still going on strong with you and her. My brother, use your brain. The person chunking out these article might be on the next flight to paris on a holiday trip with his bae, and you are there single handedly ruining your relationship.
I remember reading through comments on linda Ikeji’s blog on some posts about Toke Makinwa, and I saw so many bittered comments. Quite a number of people were claiming many women left their man all on account of viewing toke’s vlog and wasn’t ready to work things out with their man, while Toke dated a man for 8 years or even more before finally tying the knot and I was wow’d.
This article is a call on all youths out there going through emotional hazards and surfing the net on regular basis for information on how to deal with it all to apply wisdom with sense. Take time out to study your partner and your relationship. Think decisions through before making them.
And most importantly, treat your partner the exact way you would want to be treated. No two ways about it. Be understanding and considerate.