As romantic as a date may look, it could also be the most challenging thing to do as most men end up getting nervous or too scared to know what to do during dates. There is an endless amount of questions most men tend to ask themselves during and after dates. What should you wear? What fancy place should you meet? Where is the limit of what you should say? Who should pay? How soon after your date is it okay to call? There are lots of questions that can spin around a man’s head before, during, and after a date.
Here, we’ve compiled a list of exciting tips that could help you the next time you decide to take that girl of your dream out.
Pick somewhere you will be comfortable with for dates
It’s not always that you may want to act the gentleman by letting the lady pick a date venue. You, too, should be the man and choose a place that will create a pleasantly surprising emotion to the lady. Considering the nervousness attached to first-time dates, it is advised that you pick a venue that you are familiar with as it helps improve your confidence.
First impression counts
You don’t want to be caught on your first date wearing faded clothes, ripped jeans, or sagging your trousers. Remember, what you wear may define the first impression a lady would have about you. Dressing really smart, shaving properly, and looking good will go a long way in influencing how the lady sees you afterward.
Don’t do all the talking
On your date, ensure you don’t do all the talking. Try to keep what you say as concise as possible. You don’t want to ruin the date with too much talking, especially when you don’t allow her to talk also. If your first date goes well, there will be lots more opportunities to tell your stories in the future. Don’t be scared to occasionally pause. It is crucial to ask your date questions, but be gentle with your questions. Also, listening is an essential virtue in dates. It shows how much you are interested in what she has to say.
Avoid talking about your ex
Now, this is a very trivial issue that can cause awkward moments during your discussion. Avoid telling about your ex as most times, this could make the lady lose interest. Try to intentionally avoid the topic, except she asks a question explicitly on it. When she asks, keep the answers short.
Pay the bill
Things have evolved, and most women will assume that you will let them pay for their share of the bill. On your first date, ensure you insist on giving her a treat (although not in a forceful way). This will make you look like a gentleman. However, if she insists on paying, suggest she pay the bill the next time you will be having a date, if she wishes.
Follow Up Correctly
Don’t ever tell a girl you’ll call her if you don’t think you intend to see her again. It’s not a crime to just tell her that you enjoyed the night, and that’s all. However, if you want to see her again, do not wait for days before you contact her again. Follow up on your date with calls, as this will make her know how much you really value a conversation with her.