Hello my lovers. How are you today?
A saying goes that when two, three or more girls/ladies/women cluster, they are probably gossiping about their extended friends, talking fashion or discussing fellas (’em boys).
If you expect me to call that claim bogus, then I am sorry to disappoint you. Its 95% true.
Most females are guilty of this. I am no exception (Me sef follow). There was a point in my life when the only topics hot enough to discuss were any or all of the above. I was well versed and focused on this routine, much more than on my assignments and chores. I could say I was just having fun but I was also very young, naïve and impetuous in a very subtle manner.
However, a time came when I pulled a chair, sat my butt down and began to think things through.
Widget not in any sidebars
I thought of my past, focused on my present and projected upon the future. I pondered where I would want to be in five years. Then I tried to figure out if my daily itinerary was positively contributing to achieving this goal. That was when I realized I was on a veeeerrrryyyy long thing ( sleeping on okada).
You can’t rise above three to five people you regularly associate with or (you can’t rise above your companions) this is not always the case except you can prove it
Don’t get me wrong o, as women, it’s natural and normal for us to discuss these things (friends, fashion, men), but when it becomes the only type of conversation you have in the sort of gathering you keep, then you should worry.
At age 18, I believe there should be more depth to the kind of conversation you have. If all you talk about with your girlfriends is how you dated Segun, dumped Tunde, Chopped Emeka’s money and stood Musa up, then you should ask yourself where those empty achievements will get you.
It’s time for you to start having meaningful conversations that point towards your goal and ambitions in life. You’ve got to aim higher, talk intelligently and pick ideas from your conversations. You can’t be talking men and the likes and expect to develop your ideas from such discussions. Well, except your line of profession relates to servicing male clients (if you know what I mean), you should have passed that level by now.
Look for people that are intelligent, people that have similar ideologies, goals and visions. Whose orientation tally with yours. People who see the need to work hard at whatever profession or market they have chosen.
Right now I am enjoying my set of friends. Whether it’s a phone convo, BBM chat, Facebook, Twitter or social media shout, we are focusing on the next break in the field we’ve chosen. I am either asking my friend or acquaintance to help me on something I really don’t understand or getting the next big idea for a blog post or a business venture and vice versa.
You might feel these things don’t matter but trust me; you are nourishing or stunting your sub-conscious being without knowing it.
Also learn to read books that are in line with that career you have chosen. This is one area I am struggling to overcome but I’m on course. I am still trying to figure out if I am better off reading from my PC or if a hard copy (Old fashioned way) will do the magic. While i’m still at it (trying to figure it out), I make sure to read something about my field each time I go online. No matter how short the article is. This is how to improve
Bottom-line is, watch the company you keep and the buddies you follow. They will make you, keep you stagnant or break you.
It doesn’t mean we ladies will stop discussing men and fashion, it only means we have grown in maturity to understand that there are more important things to talk about 1st before chipping in the less important ones.
IF THAT FRIEND IS ONLY VAST IN THE ISSUE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX, THEN CUT THAT BIATCH OFF!!!
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