Beware of Relationship Biographers – Alibaba GCFR

Beware of Relationship Biographers - Alibaba GCFR - elsieisy blog

This piece written by Alibaba GCFR on his Instagram page reminded me of a post written by Nma Jewel, titled GIRL CODE where she said;

You cannot stop one person from loving another person, it is beyond your control once they are in love; however, you may either walk away or put some big girl panties on and cheer them on. You will get the ultimate blessing. In fact the future will be kind to you.

Click HERE to read it if you missed it.

See what Alibaba has for you Relationship Biographers below:

Learn to let go!!!!!! If it did not work for you, all that “he used to”… “She used to”… “We were supposed to” is not necessary. Move on.

I often don’t get ladies who try to discourage another lady from dating a guy because “he toasted me and I said no”. Hold up! Is it your toasting? This is another person. You have said no. Keep that NO to yourself. Even if you dated the lady and you parted ways, if she is moving on and your guy is part of the movement, keep your past to yourself.One time, with one of my Egbons, a guy asked him if he ever dated one lady who was now married to a big politician, my Egbon denied it. After the guy left, I looked at him and reminded him that I knew he did. He said, “Yes, and so? It’s none of his business. I dated her. It did not work. She is now with another person. Case closed!”Beware of people who like to list the number of people they have dated. They should be avoided. Another set of people are those who are relationship biographers. “Shebi she is the lady that used to date Lagbaja” “Isn’t that Bimbo’S ex?” “I used to date him”… Some people also believe that if a guy talked to them before and they said no, he should not date anyone near them again!I know a lady who dated her friend’s ex and eventually married him. The friend knew it didn’t work with her, so there was no need to block a friend who has the good vibes she did not have. Reminds me of that Solomon ruling and the 2 mothers. One said let’s cut the child into 2 because hers was dead. LET IT GO. MOVE ON.

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  1. A lesson for our Nigerian mentality right there… This is actually quite common with the ladies, and some guys too especially if the guy happened to have something to do with the lady sexually..please change your thinking bikonu….

  2. Survival strategy 202: “Learn to let go”, it doesn’t get simpler than this. Alibaba making sense since 12AD.

  3. I beg to differ from the first commentor, i think guys do the “did you date her” more. But the ladies will give you one million reasons you should not date him when you guys obviously have the vibes…lol..qed when it comes to dating mind your business mbok

  4. Ladies often discourage their friends from dating guys who weren’t good to them to save them from facing the same dilemma they did,i see nothing wrong with that

  5. Guys however are more guilty, when a guy expresses his interest in a particular girl to his friends, that’s when one oloshi will come and open his mouth and call her a ho’ simply because he knows her ex or something

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