Hello there, I guess you thought the ‘Dear Elsians” segment doesn’t function anymore? Naaa, I just don’t see the need to make up stories that isn’t real to get opinions from you all. The literature and opinion categories are enough to fictionalize. A reader sent this mail from Zambia and would love to have your opinion. Kindly read through and share your advice in the comment box. She is waiting for hear from you. Thank you
“Am a girl aged 22 turning 23 next month. I’ve been dating this guy for over 9yrs, our relationship is an on and off thing. He left me to date other girls like twice. He dated the 1st one for about a year, in that year he would tell me he is not seeing her any more so we would get back then I’ll later find out that they are still together and yeah, we would break up again, then they eventually they broke up and we got back and we were happy.
He promised he will never repeat what he did but he did it again because we had some misunderstanding because of his insecurities that gets him upset every time I don’t pick up his call or when I go out with my friend, so that led to us breaking up. He started dating another girl and we had been on and off with him because he was still with this other girl and was lying to me, I called the girl and asked how long they’ve been together and she told me they’ve been together for almost 3years that it’s been an on and off thing for them as well.
So it’s like he would go to her when he argues with me and vice versa but now he says he’s changed and has made up his mind he wants to be with me. I’ve confirmed that they are officially done with the other girl, he seems serious this time, but am scared it just might be one of his old habits or maybe he is realized that he really loves me because he dumped the other girl for no reason and I asked him why he did that he told me that he did that because he realized that he can’t do without me…
Should I take him back and give him another chance? Am so confused please help me ASAP before I make a mistake”