They say a woman’s place is the kitchen. I am not here to dispute that but that makes the woman a unique creature. No matter the size of that kitchen, a whole lot of lesson are learnt from the kitchen that helps the African woman to be who she chooses to be in this so called ‘Men’s world’.
I will talk about some of the values the girl child imbibes into her subconscious self while growing up closely with her mother in the kitchen.
Preparing a meal in the kitchen requires some level of focus. You don’t want your food coming out tasting horrible right? So you pay attention to every details (ingredients).
A woman has to be good at multitasking to survive and be efficient in the kitchen. You don’t want to spend the whole day in the kitchen knowing fully well that you have other things to do. Therefore, you have to slice the pepper, onions and tomatoes while the oil heats up, break the eggs while the sauce fries.
They say patience is a virtue. When you are in the kitchen, it is truly a virtue. My Chemistry teacher taught me that the boiling point of water is 100 degree Celsius (212 Fahrenheit)…oh pulis!…..Have you noticed it takes more time for a kettle of water to boil when you stand by it than when you have the whole day to wait? Oh well, that’s how it seems to me though. You still gotta be patient and wait.
How about cooking beans? Life is really a pot of beans!
Asides from emotional abuse, domestic abuse and bad coitus pain, the kitchen is the number one place where the woman experiences pain. Ranging from strong heat to knife cuts to tin opener to burnt fingers to oil blisters, the list of endless. But they go through this things without complaints and just the smiles on people’s face while eating her meal takes the pain away.
This is why the show of appreciation is very important.
You can’t be in the kitchen if you can’t manage time. That’s so impossible. The kitchen and cooking are synonymous with time. If you don’t want to serve a burnt food, half done meal, or taste fighting meal, you must know what time and how long you should do, allow, leave or put.
In the kitchen, you need strength to turn that semovita, you need strength to pound that yam, you need strength to make that amala, you need strength to prepare Fufu.
Yes I know we have the ones that are almost ready made, but at the end, you still need strength to finally make them edible.
And that strength? It isn’t easy.
You will make so many mistakes in the kitchen when trying out new stuffs. Even when making the meals you feel you are good at. But we always find the strength to correct our mistake by finding a way to make amend or starting all over (Yes we do start all over without you know, especially when we are the lord of the kitchen, lool).
OPENS YOUR MIND TO CHANGE
Just as new Apps, software and electronics are being invented every day, so are new meals and new methods of making them. You have to be open minded and accept change. You can’t be the boss of all kitchens or you keep eating archaic meals
These are some of the Values you learn from the KITCHEN that can be applied in a corporate organization, in your day to day activities and even in your relationships.
So when they tell you “you will still end up in the kitchen.” Just to spite you, tell them ‘IT STARTED FROM THE KITCHEN ANYWAYS” DUUUUH!
THE KITCHEN – A SCHOOL OF VALUE.
IF YOU CAN HANDLE THE HEAT IN THE KITCHEN THEN YOU CAN HANDLE THE HEAT IN THE WORLD.