When I hear people say ‘decent single ladies do not live alone’, I just call them idiots in my head and keep walking or remain unlooking.
How can a person just say stuffs like that without thinking? We talk faster than we think and it’s something I hope majority will stop.
I have never hidden the fact that I stay alone from anybody. I do not believe in drawing people in with a lie or falsehood. If you don’t like my truth then keep walking, you are not supposed to be in my life.
There are reasons why a woman will have to live alone. It shouldn’t be a big deal and it doesn’t make her any less decent. If a Bachelor can live alone in peace, why can’t a Spinster?
I remember an acquaintance telling me not to reveal that I live alone to anyone, especially men. He said by doing so, the men will have an impression of me. They’d think my house is a place where different men troop in easily to have sex with me. This was way back so I was almost believing his words.
The only problem was that, whenever I’m asked, I say the truth. I’m terrible with lies. I don’t know how people do it but it’s very difficult for me to tell a lie and also keep at it. I will rather hold the truth from you than telling a lie.
After a while I said ‘fuck it’. Think whatever you like. If staying by myself will make me not see horseband, I think it’s fair enough. I love my space and I’m even trying to wrap my head around having to share a space with one man for the rest of my life.
Some ladies live alone because they have no choice. That’s the only way they can live. Why is it easy for you to accept a woman living alone (off campus) because she had to move closer to school than living alone when done with her education.
I have heard all sorts, seen all sorts.
It’s more like, you are either living somewhere because of school, living with your family or relative or living in your ‘husband’s’ house. SMH
I read somewhere about a lady who suffered domestic violence in the hands of her aunt. From the story, this lady had a job, a well paying job o, she even had vacation allowance and they traveled to different parts of the world for training. But each time she came home a bit late or traveled for these training, she comes back to her Aunt treating her like a slave. Hitting her with the nearest item. Of course makeup dey cover plenty.
It got me thinking. Why would a human being endure such treatment when she can easily afford an apartment? And I realised many women live their lives to please the society, hoping that one day, one man from the pleased society will come forward to marry them so they can be called ‘Mrs.’.
I remember another dude I met about 3years ago telling me that the moment he entered my house, he knew I wasn’t a runs girl. I asked him to explain and he said runs girls will have AC, flat screen and all in the house.
I cursed his entire generation in my head. Imagine somebody saying the things I’m praying for and working towards getting will make him see me as a runs girl. Sigh* I wonder what he will say now though. I’m probably the queen of runs girls.
Like I said, there are different reasons a lady will have to live alone. Orphaned or just comfortable enough to live alone.
Who a lady lives with does not determine her body count. Get that into your head.
These society standards have made some ladies live in houses where they cannot breath in peace just because they don’t want to be seen as indecent.
If a man can live alone, a woman can. It changes nothing. She’s responsible and taking care of herself and her needs.
Erase all these nonsense from your head. A lady staying with her family is not better than a lady lounging in her apartment, neither is a lady living alone better than the one living with her parents or a family member.
Let people be comfortable living their lives the way it works for them.
Like somebody said on facebook – I think it’s even more progressive if a lady gets to live alone and independent, experiencing life on her own, being able to make rational decisions. Not jumping from her parents house to the so called husband’s house
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