I have been seeing post about Son of my father on social media and have wondered what this book could be about. At some point I settled with the idea that the book must be just another one of those books about God and man, so I paid less attention. Not because I do not believe in God or because I am not a Christian. I am just tired of humans thinking their own path and relationship with God have to be same way with others.
I am of the opinion that, just as every other thing in life, our relationship with God is very personal and can take different turns for different people. Well…this post is not about my belief and faith…So let’s move on.
I got an autographed copy of Son of my father by Tosin Olukuade because I am bad like that…Smug* and a beautiful photo too. Yes I am beautiful. Judge the picture below by yourself…who fine pass?
I woke up this morning with less on my plate. I wasn’t even hungry, I was just alive and happy. So I thought, why not read a book? Why not read ‘Son of my Father’? You got a copy yesterday.
Reading I began and I am glad I did.
Of course I realised just again that assumption is the mother of all fuck ups. The book was not about what I imagined, rather a man who have been able to reflect on his almost 40years on earth and realised the great role his father’s way of life impacted on his life.
I did not drop the book for once till I read the last word of its last chapter.
The book resounded the need for men to understand that being a father is much more than dropping sperm in a fertile woman. It is a responsibility, a call to duty, an event that awakens your humanity and above all, a call for balance.
Looking at this book at face value, you will see a man overly in love with his father while trying to make his father smile by trying to write that book his father did not get to write. He mentioned that his father said something which hinted like a form of regret about his life, being that his eyes defect which had gone beyond medical restoration had hindered him from writing some books so he would at least share some of his experience, faith and walk with God such that many lives would have benefited from the grace in his life.
You would probably see a son who tried to mirror his father’s life to the best of his knowledge in order to put a smile on his face on his 80th birthday.
I employ you to read deep and think deep.
I wrote something about call for balance above, which many men lack in this day and age. In life, you have to apply balance or you would fail woefully. Of course Tosin Olukuade made us understand that he had many injuries as a stubborn child that I would like to call him but his father’s love and care drew my attention more. I was almost moved to tears. In this book, you will find a man who didn’t leave the caring and loving role in the family to be played only by his wife. He played his role and lived a life which served and is still serving as a standard for his children.
He didn’t lead by force but by example. He had his flaws and also learnt to let go. He believed in God and taught his children to do same by example. He wasn’t raising his children to conform to some way of life laid down by him or some group of humans somewhere, he let them live their lives while holding them close to his heart and loving them.
He also didn’t fail to talk about the virtuous woman, the wife of this father, his mother, who his father trusted enough to hand his heart to.
Every father and intending father should pick up this book and read. I know you will pick one or two lessons from this book. I was raised by a single mother who perfectly played the role of a father and mother in my life. It’s funny but I see a lot about my mother in this book while reading it. Maybe I will get my lazy self to write a version of ‘Daughter of my mother’…LOL
This book is a perfect gift for your husband, son, brother, nephew, neighbor and every male figure around you. It takes us all back to the way God fathers us.
Unfortunately, I cannot give out my autographed copy but one lucky winner will get a copy of the Son of my father from me.
If you are interested just drop a comment below stating why you are the Son of your father. Say something nice about the man who raised you…will you?