You cannot force a man to do anything. You cannot even force him to become someone he is not, and same goes for women. If a woman wants to remain in an abusive marriage/relationship, please allow her and mind your business. We are too much in this world already not to mind our business. One less being can make the difference.
Humans are unique and they react to situations in their own way (Not always how you expect them to react going by what they say though)
It’s necessary to note that upbringing and orientation differs. We read news of domestic violence daily. Men get violated…women get violated.
But because men want to form ‘I am a man’, their natural strength and a society that favours them, we don’t get to hear much about their side of the pain neither is it rampant.
So we have more women being domestically abused daily….
In a society where women are taught to depend on men for everything they need, where the defining factor of a woman’s success is her ‘crown’ (very laughable), a society that would advise you to ‘enjoy’ the beating and torture because…Children, they see a divorcee as the worst thing to happen after Judas, what do you even expect?
Its just sad that every day, a case of abuse is being reported and then you see a sorry question after the tale, ‘what do I do?’
What is wrong with people?
Who are you asking please?
You want the social media streets to make your personal decision for you?
You already have wounds all over. Quite unrecognizable, thanks to your iron man husband and you ask us what to do?
Ok, I will tell you;
Please stick with your man
Stay in your husband’s house
There are no jobs outside
Nobody will accommodate you
Your family will disown you for bringing shame to their name if you have a failed marriage.
That marriage is worth much more than your life.
If you leave, who will take care of your children?
You had better sit and fight for your marriage. If you die fighting, we will tell your children of your heroic lifestyle.
Do not let these bitter feminists, clueless relationship coaches and social media noise makers destroy your home and legacy.
Remain there, at least breakfast, lunch and dinner is sure.
Nigeria is hard now o. Very hard my sister. And I hear it will even get harder before the promised ‘change’ comes, so hold your meal ticket nne.
Some female corps pass outs from yesterday are depressed already. Depressed because they are not engaged, depressed because they don’t even have a boyfriend, some are depressed because their so called boyfriends also passed out yesterday (abi when will he get a job then save enough to be man enough to marry her?) and you cannot hold on to your man?
Men scarce o! Very scarce! Look at bitter single ladies like me. We are finding ‘crown’, we never see. And you are there crying.
Is it not just beating?
Please bear it o.
If you die from the beating, we will mourn. Your husband will be sad forever. He will never re marry. He will spend the rest of his life taking care of the children you left behind.
I hope I have been able to advise you accordingly, this is serious. Please take my advice.
I love you
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