Being a young lady in this generation of ours is sure not an easy task. I’m very sure most parents don’t understand this even though we pretend to see the understanding and concern in their words when they throw their truck load of warnings and advice.
That being said, I still strongly believe that what it takes to love one’s self, have self-respect and guide one’s dignity haven’t changed that much not minding the introduction of the internet to our old very limited secretive life.
Trying not to deviate from the issue at hand – Friend zone. Wikipedia defines Friend zone as a platonic relationship wherein one person, most commonly a man wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable or dreaded situation by the lovelorn person.
Platonic – is a type of love that is chaste and non-sexual.
This therefore means you can only be friend zoned if you initially wanted a romantic relationship with the other person.
I think the term friend zone came around to change our perception of how the relationship with a girl and a guy should be. You would agree with me that a girl cannot be in an intimate relationship with 99% of the men who would approach her. And you would also agree with me that she can’t become enemies with them all just because the intimacy isn’t happening. Now there is every possibility that that babe you are wanting so bad is probably in a relationship or just in that phase where she wants to just enjoy her spinsterhood without any man interfering.
The way most guys use the term can be very annoying. You meet a guy today, you get talking and the next thing is – “Don’t even think of friend zoning me”, “I can’t be friend zoned”, “I hate being friend zoned”, “No girl can ever friend zone me”. Some even go as far as saying, “it’s either we are dating or we can’t be friends”. I strongly agree that a girl and a guy can be platonic friends and only the shallow minded ones would conclude a girl and a guy are intimate just because they hang out or do other things friends should naturally do.
As long as a lady is in a relationship – a good relationship at that, I think she can have other guys as friends (– platonic relationship) because when a woman is in love and satisfied with her love life, she doesn’t even have the time to pay so much attention to her female friends talk more of having anything more than platonic friendship with any other guy. It’s just logical. A real woman loves hard and would channel the little attention she has left on more important things in her life such as her career or even education.
So the next time you think you are being friend zoned, pause and think about it. Would you rather have a lady leaving her man to attend to your lustful needs just because you claim to love her or be friends with a woman of substance who values what she has and stand a chance to meet other awesome single ladies through her?
As far as I am concerned, there is nothing like being friend zoned. It is either you end up dating, become platonic friends or just her acquaintance. Stop attaching negativity to the word friend zone but if you think you have been friend zoned and you think it’s that horrible, then unfriend zone yourself and stop acting like you’ve been sentenced to death.
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